“I Would Do Anything for You.”
“I would do anything for you”
If I am surrounded by people constantly telling me they would do “anything” for me, then why can’t just one of them make time for an hour coffee date with me on Sunday? Why can’t I find someone to feed my cats and water my plants when I go out of town? Those fall under “anything”, right? Don’t get me wrong. I love the people in my life. I think they are great and I’m not going to hold little things against them. We’re all adults. We’re busy. Life happens. But I do wish that they wouldn’t pride themselves on the fact that they would “do anything” for me when that’s simply not true. Before I lose you after this sentence, remember that reading my blog posts can fall under that category of “anything”. (See what I did there?) Just listen. I too, say things I don’t mean. All the time. I’ve said “I’d do anything for you” yet not be willing to loan someone $50 or drive 2 hours to help them with a task.
Like I emphasized in my last post, we’ve normalized lying for the sake of being polite. But LYING IS NOT POLITE. I will always stand by that statement.
I’m not posting about this topic to cry out about how nobody cares about me. I am not stupid. I know that my friends care about me. I know that the people in my life care about me. On most days I know that. But on some days I don’t. I fear that there are too many people out there who don’t know that also. And the only thing that they know is that somebody promised them they would do “anything” for them but didn’t deliver that promise. And then it happened again. And again. And again.
We get mad when people don’t trust us to help them yet we feed them lies about how far we’re willing to go if and only if it’s convenient for us, the stars align, Mercury is not retrograde, it’s not too hot outside and we got a full 8 hours of sleep last night. So, once in a blue moon essentially.
Like my last post, I’m going to leave you with a call to action. Ask yourself if your words to someone line up with what you are actually willing to do for them. If they don’t, modify them so that you are making a true statement. Don’t say “I would do anything for you” if what you really only mean to say is “sure, I’ll give you a ride to work on Thursday.”