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The Truth About Why I Stopped Running

I used to be a runner -not a good one, but I believe that if you run (not just from hungry bears or someone trying to mug you) you are a runner. Running was my primary way of staying fit. It was the only exercise I liked. I used to have a goal of running a half marathon in all 50 states. That goal died a year ago. In the fall of 2016, I started running again after depression made me stop for almost a year. I spontaneously signed up for the Sioux Falls Half Marathon and my love for running was rekindled. During the fall and winter seasons of 2016, I checked South Dakota, Kentucky, Illinois and Indiana off the map. I booked a trip to Baton Rouge, Louisiana to run the Louisiana Half Marathon in January 2017 but a few weeks before the race, I got pneumonia My flight and hotel were non refundable at that point so even though I was unable to participate in the race, I decided to travel to Louisiana any
way.

My trip to Louisiana was honestly one of the worst experiences of my life. I felt so depressed and helpless and it made the entire experience so miserable. I even tried to book a flight home immediately within an hour of arriving at my hotel. I was so mad at myself for not being well enough to run. Obviously, it was not my fault I had pneumonia but because my brain functions in a very self-punishing way, I was convinced otherwise at the time. At that point in time, I was also signed up for half marathons in California and Alaska as well as a full marathon in Indiana for later on in the year but at that moment, in my hotel in Louisiana, I decided that I would never run again. I stopped being active and started treating my body like crap.

A year has passed and as I am embarking on a brand new fitness journey, I am beginning to realize how much I miss running and how big of a role it played in my pos

 

itive travel experiences. Running gave a lot to me physically, mentally and travel wise.

 

I miss the excitement of booking a running adventure. I have decided to give it another try. I haven’t quite decided

when and where to start, as I am incredibly out of shape and quite a bit heavier than I was when I was actively running and training

but I am excited to color a few more states in on my running map in 2018!

How I Have the Confidence to Travel Alone

Happy Monday! If you didn’t happen to catch my Facebook update last night, I have been really sick with the flu and a lung issue and that is why the daily posts Friday through Sunday didn’t go up. I apologize and I thank you for understanding. Now that we have that out of the way, I am going to answer a question I get asked ALL. THE. DAMN. TIME. On the internet, in my personal life. Everyday.

How do you have the confidence to travel alone? How are you not afraid? Wow. I could never do that. My husband would never let me do that. Don’t you worry about something happening to you? It would be so boring. People would judge me for being there by myself.

 

The simple answer is this: I love to travel and sometimes, most of the time actually, solo travel is my only option if I want to go somewhere. And it’s always been that way.

About a year and a half ago, I had a huge realization about life being short and I know that sounds pretty cliche but stick with me. Around the same time, I also had the realization that I am a freaking adult and if I want to go somewhere and do something, who or what is stopping me?! I grew up as an only child and still today I have a pretty small circle of friends and family. I don’t have hundreds of friends who also have the travel bug or who can afford to go somewhere every couple months. But I also firmly believe that just because you others don’t want to do the same things as you, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get the opportunity to do them.

But if I am being completely honest, I was never scared to travel alone. Maybe something is wrong with me. Who knows. I’ve always been more comfortable with strangers than with people I know and I’ve always been more confident by myself than with a group. Granted, I have yet to do solo international travel (although, I have done international travel with groups of people I barely knew so that is basically the same thing). I would love to travel with others always but for my goals and aspirations, based on what my life currently looks like, thats not feasible so solo travel it is!

I hope this helps answer any questions you may have. Let me know if you would like more posts about my experiences traveling alone versus traveling with other people.

5 Experiences You Need to Have in 2018.

Happy Thursday! I’m still at it with the New Year’s posts so please forgive me. Looking back on 2017, I have compiled a list of some of my favorite experiences and I want to share it with you. I had the best year ever in 2017 because of these experiences!

 

Travel Solo

I traveled by myself a lot in 2017. Traveling solo seems terrifying at first. Many people ask me how I have the confidence to travel by myself or say things such as “I would never do that. I would get bored” or “wow my husband would never let me do that”. One of the best ways to get to know yourself is by spending time with yourself. When traveling, you get to know yourself in different circumstances and situations. I highly recommend trying solo travel in 2018. Maybe you don’t love the idea or traveling across the country alone but try taking a small road trip or a weekend somewhere you’ve always wanted to go. I promise that you will learn a lot about yourself and realize that you are good company.

See Your Favorite Band/Artist Live

If you are a music lover, then you know that there is no better feeling than seeing your favorite band or artist live. Seeing a popular artist you love doesn’t aways mean you need to drop hundreds of dollars on a concert ticket. While it is pretty cool to be up close and personal, they sound the same whether you are on the floor or way up in the nose bleeds. If you can just live in the moment and bask in the music, you will have the time of your life. It didn’t occur to me until early last year that “hey I’m an adult and I can go to whatever concert I want to”, so it that hasn’t occurred to you yet, this is me bringing you a revelation.

Spend Quality Time With Someone You Don’t Know Very Well

In simpler terms, make a friend. For my birthday this past summer, I went on a weekend trip with a girl from work with the same birthday as me that I didn’t know super well. I know. That also sounds scary but honestly, it was the beginning of a beautiful friendship. We went to two concerts, one that I wanted to see and one she did and we went to an amusement park. It was one of the most fun weekends of my life and now I have a really good friend!

Have a Conversation With Someone You Look Up To

In 2017, I met the person I had looked up to my entire life. I actually met her twice. I honestly am still on cloud 9 six months later. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a celebrity (although in my case, it was). It can be someone you’ve admired from afar because lets be honest, we all have that person. So have a conversation with them. Pick their brain for knowledge. Let them know they inspire you. It sounds cheesy, but its life changing.

Do Something That Scares the Sh*t Out of You

Yes, thats right. As if the previous four haven’t scared you enough, do something that scares the absolute shit out of you. For me, it was getting in a helicopter. I knew for months I advance that I was going to have to ride in a helicopter but when it was time, I saw the helicopter and said hell no. But I did it and after the first two minutes, I stopped being afraid and enjoyed breathtaking views of glaciers. Whether the thing that scares you is getting on a plane or riding a ride or even going to the ocean, do it. You will thank yourself so much.

 

I hope these 5 experiences will help make 2018 the best year yet for you. I know I plan on doing all 5 of these again this year!

17 Things I Learned in 2017

Here I am showing up with one last post for 2017. I know a lot of people had a rough year but 2017 was such a good year for me. Yes, I had moments that were bad but overall it was one of my favorites. I also learned quite a bit about myself and the world so I compiled a list for you:

  1. Always double/triple/quadruple check your travel reservations.
  2. Don’t feel guilty about something that you had nothing to do with.
  3. Knock off beauty blenders are shit. Buy the real one.
  4. Don’t let anyone give you shit for your taste in music. If you think its awesome, its awesome.
  5. Take off your makeup EVERY NIGHT. Your skin needs it.
  6. Tailgating without a car is way more fun.
  7. When someone you haven’t spoken to in years shows up in your life with their negative opinions, don’t take it to heart.
  8. You don’t have to run away to have an adventurous life.
  9. Your passion in life and your job/career aren’t necessarily the same thing.
  10. Listen to bands that cost $20 to see (and see all of them)
  11. Going to concerts is always a good idea.
  12. Wear GOOD shoes (f*ck fashion sometimes)
  13. Always tell your friends how much you appreciate them even if it seems repetitive.
  14. You can’t change stupid shit you did in the past no matter how hard you try.
  15. You’re never too old to go to Disneyland
  16. DRINK WATER
  17. People are the most important aspect of life. Show them love and they will show you love in return.

I hope everyone has a fun and safe New Years Eve! Thank you lovelies for the past 4 months and here’s to 2018!