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Kauai, HI, USA

Approximately a month ago, I spent a week on the beautiful island that is Kauai. Here is an overview of some of my favorite and least favorite experiences from this trip.

Kauai Coffee.

Kauai Coffee was a coffee lovers dream come true, let me tell you. Kauai Coffee, located on the southwest side of Kauai, is the largest coffee grower in the United States. They offer tours of the orchard, (is that what it’s called? A coffee orchard?) or you can do a self-guided walk-through. Once we completed our fascinating walk through the orchard (and I truly mean I was fascinated by the process of getting coffee from a plant to a cup), we..well, I (my husband hates coffee) was able to taste a wide variety of coffee flavors and brews and even had the option to purchase full sized coffee drinks. Visiting Kauai Coffee was one of the highlights of my visit to Kauai and even my coffee-hating husband enjoyed our visit.

Waimea Canyon.

You can’t visit Kauai without visiting Waimea Canyon aka the Grand Canyon of the Pacific. Waimea Canyon is located on the Western side of the island and made for a scenic day trip.

Botanical Gardens.

While the botanical gardens were beautiful, the three hour tour was..well, to put it nicely, not the highlight of my trip. It was falsely advertised as a chocolate tour. There was chocolate-just 95% cacao, dirt tasting chocolate chips about halfway through the tour. I’m not going to state the name of the place because I’m not trying to make enemies, but book “chocolate tours” with caution. The gardens were very beautiful though and the guide was very informative about all the different plants growing. I’m sure it’s a lovely tour if you are into that sort of thing. My husband loved it.

Kauai Food.

Oh man. My husband and I are definitely both foodies and Kauai did not disappoint.

Here is a list of some of our favorite places we ate:


Imua Coffee Roasters

Olympic Cafe

Korean BBQ Restaurant

Island Taco

Bubba Burgers

Chicken in a Barrel 




I hope this post is helpful if you are planning on visiting Kauai in the near future. Of course we had plenty of beach days also, but we primarily stayed at our resort beach. I definitely recommend visiting Kauai. 

“Hello.” It’s 2019 and I’m Here For It!

Hello and welcome to my cheesy New Year’s Post! (Yes-I am aware its been 2019 for 11 days now.)

As much as I make fun of people who use the New Year to set goals and reinvent parts of their life (I am a firm believer that you can do that any day), I do it too. On New Year’s Day, my mom asked me what my focus word for 2019 was going to be because she just now got on board and heard about that. I brushed it off but I started thinking that maybe I could pick one too. I know people typically will pick an adjective such as “calm” or “carefree” but I simply picked: “hello”.

I picked “hello” because right off the bat, I knew there would be changes to my life. I got married at the end of 2018, I also quit one of my jobs at the end of 2018. I knew there would be new people in my life and new opportunities right away and I wanted to be able to greet them with a friendly “hello”, rather than hiding from them.

Every year, I set goals for myself knowing in the back of my mind that they aren’t attainable. (Can anyone relate? Please comment if you can so I feel better hahah.) This year is probably no exception. I have an extremely ambitious bucket list of places I want to visit but unless I win the lottery, there’s no way I will make it to all of them. Year after year, I am blown away by how much can happen in a year- 2018 especially. My main goal is just to go along for the ride- and enjoy it.

So, hello 2019. It’s nice to meet you.

“Lol that was wild” The Story of 2018.

WOAH. Wasn’t it like a week ago I posted The Story of 2017? How is 2018 over?!

I was trying to think of the best way I could describe the beautiful mess that 2018 was and all I could think was “Lol that was wild”.

Well… Here we go. 

I don’t even remember January, to be honest. Almost everything I had originally planned for 2018 changed -and I’m okay with that. 2018 was going to be a year of organization and following dreams. It was a year of one of those things. Not organization though.

February .. where do I start? I spent a week on the glorious island of Aruba. Aruba is probably the prettiest island I’ve ever been to and I had a blast doing everything from visiting an Aloe farm to sitting in the sand with a Mango Daiquiri. Oh, and did I mention the part where my boyfriend (now husband) proposed to me on the beach one night after a romantic dinner? It was a fairytale proposal, let me tell you. I definitely did not go into 2018 knowing I’d be married by the end of it.

In March, I started hardcore wedding planning since we planned to get married in December. I hosted a lovely little wine-and-cheese-type-of-thing engagement party. We also toured venues, picked wedding colors and dove head first into the process.

Man, oh man I am dreading writing about April. You may recall my lovely little “I Checked Myself Into a Hospital” post. I’m pretty sure I actually deleted it a while back. It was a post being 100% transparent with my readers about what was going on with me and why I was so absent and all over the place. I experienced my first manic episode and ended up checking myself into a mental health crisis center. From there, I did 7 (I think) weeks of Intensive Outpatient, where I would go to a group for 3 hours a night, 3 times a week. I hated it. Every second of it. I made friends. But I hated it. Although I’m not exactly sure I learned any better coping skills, I did learn -as cliche as it sounds- that I’m not alone. There were things I thought were unique to my messed up brain, that actually aren’t. I met some of the nicest people who I didn’t realize would change my life for the better and I finally got a therapist I enjoy seeing. As much as I try to block out the fact that any of this happened, I’m actually grateful for the experience.

In May, after 9 months of writing Wander the Arctic as a secret hobby, I decided to tell my friends and family about it. May is BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) Awareness month, and I thought it would be the perfect time to start spreading awareness. On May 1st, I took a deep breath and shared a blog post to my personal Facebook. While I went back and forth for a while about whether or not I regretted letting friends and family in to that part of my life after being treated differently by so many people, I have ultimately decided that the way my brain functions is a part of me. As much as I hate my brain sometimes, we’re a packaged deal. Take it or leave it. In May, I also attended WordCamp -a WordPress conference type of two day event. There were many different types of WordPress users there but ultimately, I had a blast and I learned so much. I look forward to attending more WordCamps in the future and making more friends. I also flew to Toronto for a weekend (Memorial Day weekend in the US) to hang out with the Sashbear Foundation at their annual walk. I also did a lot of site seeing and it was all around a wonderful, much needed solo adventure after everything that was going on with my life. Plus, I live near Indianapolis so escaping the Indy 500 was definitely an added bonus. 

The only thing I honestly remember about June was seeing Harry Styles live. I mean, I feel like that would completely overtake anyones memory though. HARRY. STYLES. YALL.

I turned 25 in July so my quarter life crisis is now in full swing. I had a birthday party for the first time in forever. It was such a blast having all my friends over to drink beer and play games. I felt so much love that day. I also got to see Halsey in Indianapolis. If you know anything about me, you know Halsey is my freaking wife. I love her so much. Probably more than I love my husband. Maybe not that far. But you should understand. Lastly, in July, I became mommy to my 4th cat, Colt. A dear friend of mine had a house fire so I helped her out by taking her cat for a while. I ended up kind of just stealing him. Oops. I love him so much, though. 

Did August even happen? I really don’t remember. It’s been a rough year, y’all. I did a ton of article collaborations in August with musicians and brands. That was fun. I’m thankful for those opportunities. I started working a ton delivering pizzas for extra money. 

In September I got to see the one and only TAYLOR SWIFT. Go ahead, judge me. Also, Camila Cabello opened for her and I love Camila almost as much as I love Halsey. Seriously. September is also when I fell off the face of the earth when it came to blogging.

In October, I went to Cleveland for a wedding. That’s about it. Multiple job life, yo. 

November… the wedding stress became real. I had my bachelorette party and bridal shower all in one weekend so that my best friend could be here from California. With it being a month out from the wedding and everything left to do, mid-November, I kind of just stopped sleeping and started being anxious all the time. Such a fun time.

And finally, December. I got married December 8th to the man of my dreams. It was a fairytale. Then we went to Kauai, Hawaii for a week. Like I said, when 2018 began, I had no idea I would be married by the end of the year.

2018 went absolutely nothing like I had planned. For the most part, it was a mess. But a beautiful mess. All I can do is look back and think “lol that was wild”.

18 Things I Learned in 2018

I did 17 Things I Learned in 2017 least year. Here is my 2018 version:

  1. Everybody’s life is on a different timeline.
  2. Take responsibility for your bad habits, even if it feels shameful.
  3. Planning a wedding is NOT a joyful experience.
  4. There are people you will probably never get along with. Don’t stop being yourself because of those people.
  5. VOTE.
  6. Cherish the time you spend with your best friend.
  7. Don’t settle for a therapist you don’t vibe with.
  8. iPhones take great pictures. Disposable cameras still take better ones.
  9. Just because you make somebody a priority and will do anything for them, does not mean they will reciprocate.
  10. Taylor Swift will always be a queen.
  11. There is a difference between being mean and standing up for yourself.
  12. Get rid of clothes you don’t wear.
  13. People move on and so should you.
  14. It is absolutely ok to remove yourself from a toxic situation.
  15. Have a birthday party. Its fun.
  16. If you need to go to the hospital, go.
  17. If you want to jump in the ocean, do it. Even if you have all your clothes on.
  18. No matter how much planning you do at the beginning of the year, its not going to go that way. Not even close.

Here’s to 2019! Another year of self-discovery!