i stopped reading a book / i’m a hypocrite.
I’m the midst of curating this post, I called myself out on something. I was getting ready to get all motivational, like: “promote what you love, don’t bash what you hate.” (a lovely quote by Lilly Singh). That is a lovely picture I would like to say I paint everyday, but I don’t. Especially lately. I have been full of nothing but bashing things I don’t agree with and I’d be lying if I pretended I didn’t. I would like to live more closely in line with that mentality though, so I’m going to make a real effort to. Not saying I can’t disagree with things, just maybe not go straight for talking sh*t.
Anyways, on with the original post.
I was listening to this audio book (which shall remain unnamed because “don’t bash what you hate”) and I actually stopped about a third of the way through and decided I was just done with it and here’s why. So, I’ve been reading/ listening to a lot of “girl boss” type of stuff lately in hopes that it helps me get my shit together. A lot of them have mentioned things similar but this one straight up said something along the lines of (paraphrasing of course): “if you are doing what you should be doing, you don’t need to be inspired by anything but yourself.” Followed by a whole paragraph defending that statement.
Um. Excuse me? The day I stop feeling the need to be inspired by other things and other people is the day I have committed my biggest failure in life. I’m not saying that its wrong to think you are doing great things because its not. But that idea just doesn’t make any sense. How can you not need to pull inspiration from outside sources? How do you ever come up with ideas again? It. Doesn’t. Make. Sense. I’m. Confused. And why is this such a popular mentality to have? I’ve heard similar things so many times from so many different sources. In order to be successful am I just supposed to shut everything out and only care about myself?
Anyways, I’m sure I am taking their point completely out of context but perception is everything and thats how I perceived it and I fear thats how others will too. Its truly impossible to go through life without being influenced by others, unless ya know, you live at the top of a mountain with no human contact whatsoever. (Even then, you probably picked up a habit of two from your mountain goat friends in order to survive.) But thats probably not the case. The point of this post was just for me to express my frustration with the mentality of “I don’t need anyone else” that tends to come with the #girlboss culture.
Happy Monday and I hope this gives you something to meditate on this week.